Before you can enforce discipline and rules for your toddler you need to ensure there is a healthy relationship between you. Knowing and understanding your particular child can make it that bit easier to discipline. Once your child trusts you to meet their needs, they will trust you to set the limits.
The following gives some ways for toddler discipline:
This is one of the most common toddler discipline method. Keep the time brief around one minute per year of age. Toddlers don't usually stay in the corner so you need to stop what you are doing and stand over them making sure they can't engage your facial/body language. Once time out is over, remind them gently but firmly what they did wrong in simple language and then if they do it again (often the immediate case until they fully understand) repeat. Discipline must occur at the time of the action and not later. So even if you are out of your home, you must be prepared to discipline them. Be discreet, and don’t do it in front of others to avoid bringing down their self-esteem. Remind toddlers of the rules frequently when out on an outing or in the house if necessary.
Distract and divert
The best form of toddler discipline is redirection. First, you have to distract them from their original intention and then, quickly divert them toward a safer alternative. Give them something else to do for example, helping with the household chores and soon they will be enjoying themselves rather than investing a lot of emotional energy into the original plan.
Ignoring temper tantrum
Ignoring the behaviour or making statements such as “when you throw a tantrum I can’t hear you” or “I don’t like watching temper tantrums so let me know when you are finished and we will talk”, will both show and tell the child that their display will not gain control over the situation or the parent.
Temper tantrums are usually dramatic, intense and full of emotion. With a little practice and persistence, parents can learn how to stop the drama of a temper tantrum and change the situation to a calm, quiet discussion. Keep control and keep the peace.
Your child is more likely to do what you say if you uses soft approaches. Ask rather than tell. Say "Would you give me the crayons, please?" instead of demanding "Bring me the crayons right now!"
Much of your toddler discipline depends on your ability to set limits. Boundaries provide security for those with an adventurous nature, but inexperience can lead them astray. For example, your toddler doesn't want to hold your hand as you cross a street or parking lot together. You firmly set a limit: street or parking lot crossing is only done while holding hands. There is no option. It is important to achieve the right balance between freedom and constraints.
Limit-setting teaches a valuable lesson for life: the world is full of yeses and nos. You decide what behaviour you cannot allow and stick to that limit. This will be different for each family and each stage of development. Toddlers want someone to set limits. It makes them feel secure and loved, and helps them to understand boundaries. As a parent you have to ensure the rules you set are simple, easy to understand, and consistent.
Set up conditions for toddler discipline that encourage desirable behaviour. Structure protects and redirects. With a bit of preplanning you can remove most of the "no's" so a generally "yes" environment prevails.
Structure changes as the child grows. At all levels of development restructuring the child's environment is one of your most valuable discipline strategies.
Studies show toddler discipline using positive reinforcement works far better than punishment. Rather than focusing only on those things that irritate us and becoming habitual scolders, "catch your kids doing something right and reward them."
Remember toddlers tune out a lot so if you are always saying "No", "Don't touch this", "Don't go there", then all they hear is NO. You want to try and give them lots of positive feedback.
There is certainly no magic formula to toddler discipline but it is imperative that you establish the guidelines as early as possible.
Be consistent. If you tell a child no and then end up letting the child do what they wanted in the first place, you are setting yourself up for disaster.
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